It’s Not About the Sex

It’s Not About The Sex is a podcast based on the book by the same name. Psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken heartedness. Each podcast he interviews other therapists who work with clients dealing with addictive behaviors around troubled relationships.

Andrew Susskind and Sue Merlino discuss the WHO (World Health Organization) description of Sexual Health. The definition includes the well-being principles that are also found when discussing mental and physical health. Andrew and Sue explore how those in recovery can enjoy an addiction-free and healthy sex life full of pleasure.  Be sure to listen, share and rate this podcast.  For more information on Andrew's book, It's Not About the Sex please go to this Amazon link and you can see more about Andrew on his website here.


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Andrew Susskind and Carol Juergensen Sheets talk about Carol's approach to couples healing around sex addiction.

Andrew Susskind and Sue Merlino discuss Chapter 7 of It’s Not About the Sex. Andrew believes that the concept of contentment is not always fully examined. Positive Psychology brings this topic to the forefront, and we look at ways to cultivate it in one’s daily life.  Some of the strategies discussed include: identifying moments of gratitude, setting contentment goals and staying accountable to a satisfying and sustainable recovery.

Marty Simpson joins Andrew Susskind to talk about Formal Disclosure.  This is an option given to couples who are experiencing sexual infidelities in their relationship.  Marty walks us through this method and shares some of her specific techniques when she facilitates a formal disclosure.

Chapter 6 from Andrew’s book is entitled Regulating the Nervous System. Andrew and Sue Merlino discuss the differences between Talk Therapy and Somatic Therapies. They also describe what happens in our brain and our bodies when we experience triggers and how we can become more aware of the reactions that show up in our bodies. What we do with this awareness is a key to establishing a brand-new path for recovery and trauma healing.

In this episode Andrew and friend, Sue Merlino discuss Chapter 5 of It’s Not About the Sex. They highlight ways of slowing down in order to listen to what’s going on inside of you and how to create sacred space for this self-exploration. Andrew offers his own insights and experience as well as time-tested methods such as meditation to carve out a daily practice in your recovery.

Dr. Nancy Sobel joins Andrew for a discussion about sexual compulsivity and group therapy. Dr. Sobel talks about how she conceptualizes groups and provides quality support for members in her groups. Today’s conversation provides an intimate look at how groups for those in sexual addiction recovery often become a family of support.

Today Andrew and long-time friend Sue Merlino discuss narcissism - an often misunderstood topic that applies to all addicts and sex addicts in particular. Is narcissism an overused word? Is it a disease? Is there a way to change this disorder? Thanks for listening, be sure to rate and like us with 5 stars where ever you listen, and be sure to leave comments.

In this Episode Andrew and friend Sue Merlino discuss the many paths of recovery. Andrew shares a conversation that he had recently with someone who choose not to do the 12-Step program for Sex Addicts and instead took a more organic route.  Andrew and Sue discuss the aspects of 12-Step programs and why it is a good plan of recovery for some and how it may not be for everyone.  They also discuss the roles of responsibility, community and having the support system in place for success.

Today we have a conversation about shame resiliency and sex addiction. Andrew shares tools and strategies that can help build resiliency toward healing.  We discuss ways to identify shame and guilt as emotions that are part of being human. He discusses how self awareness, self-compassion and group therapy can all be effective tools to build more capacity for shame resiliency.

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