It’s Not About the Sex

It’s Not About The Sex is a podcast based on the book by the same name. Psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken heartedness. Each podcast he interviews other therapists who work with clients dealing with addictive behaviors around troubled relationships.

Andrew Susskind and Jan Bergstrom discuss topics from Jan's book: Gifts from a Challenging Childhood:Creating a Practice for Becoming Your Healthiest Self.  The discussion revolves around Jan's description of her 5 core practices for healthy living, and how to heal from childhood trauma and speak your truth. Andrew is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Brainspotting and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a Certified Group Psychotherapist. In 1988 he completed a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst before transitioning to the West Coast. After completing a Master of Social Welfare degree from UCLA in 1991, Andrew has worked with individuals, couples, families and groups in his practice.  Andrew has mentored associates in his private practice since 1997 and serves as faculty for the Principles of Group Psychotherapy course, a prerequisite to becoming a Certified Group Psychotherapist. His recent book It’s Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction (Central Recovery Press, June 2019) joins his workbook, From Now On: Seven Keys to Purposeful Recovery which was released in 2014.

Andrew Susskind and Sue Merlino discuss the new WHO description of Sexual Health. The description includes the well being principles that are also found when discussing mental and physical health. Andrew and Sue explore deeper into how sex addicts can enjoy an addiction free and healthy sex life full of pleasure.  Be sure to listen, share and rate this podcast.  For more information on Andrew's book, It's Not About the Sex please go to this Amazon link and you can see more about Andrew on his website here


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Andrew Susskind and Carol Juergensen Sheets talk about Carol's approach to couples healing around sex addiction.

Andrew Susskind and Sue Merlino discuss what contentment is and how to cultivate it.  The important steps that Andrew points out are: take action, to be mindful and accountable.  

Marty Simpson, LMFT, joins Andrew Susskind to talk about Formal Disclosure.  This is a process of helping couples who are experiencing a trauma to their relationship.  Marty discusses some of her techniques and also about how she facilitates a formal disclosure and the tools that she uses. 

Regulating the Nervous System is chapter from Andrews book, It's Not About the Sex. In this episode, Andrew and friend Sue Merlino discuss the differences in Talk and Somatic Therapies. They also discuss what happens in our brain and our bodies when we experience triggers and how we can better understand our reactions within our own bodies. What we do with this knowledge is key to helping to put us on a better path for recovery.

In this episode Andrew and friend, Sue Merlino discuss the interesting topic of The Rythmn Within. They highlight how to best get in touch with and best practices on how to create space for and around what is going on inside ourselves. Andrews offers great insights into meditation and not only crisis healing but day to day recovery practices.

Dr. Nancy Sobel joins Andrew for a discussion around Sexual Addiction and Group Therapy. Dr. Sobel talks about her support practices that the groups share and how she organizes her groups as a whole. It's a great look at how Sexual Addiction Group Therapy forms in her practice as a family of support.

Ep 10 Narcissism

Today Andrew and long-time friend Sue Merlino discuss narcissism - an often misunderstood topic that applies to all addicts and sex addicts in particular. Is narcissism an overused word? Is it a disease? Is there a way to change this disorder? Thanks for listening, be sure to rate and like us with 5 stars where ever you listen, and be sure to leave comments.

In this Episode Andrew and friend Sue Merlino discuss the many paths of recovery. Andrew shares a conversation that he had recently with someone who choose not to do the 12-Step program for Sex Addicts and instead took a more organic route.  Andrew and Sue discuss the aspects of 12-Step programs and why it is a good plan of recovery for some and how it may not be for everyone.  They also discuss the roles of responsibility, community and having the support system in place for success.

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