It’s Not About the Sex

It’s Not About The Sex is a podcast based on the book by the same name. Psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken heartedness. Each podcast he interviews other therapists who work with clients dealing with addictive behaviors around troubled relationships.

In this informative podcast, we welcome San Diego-based sexual health author, trainer, and psychotherapist, Douglas Braun-Harvey. His recent book “Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior: Rethinking Sex Addiction” sets the stage for a lively discussion about his sexual health model. Braun-Harvey offers us easy-to-understand ways of conceptualizing out of control sexual behaviors as a sexual health problem and not a disease or addiction. Tune in for this very educational and articulate conversation.

Today we take a closer look at the inner critic that exists within each of us and often gets entangled with shame and perfectionism. Because you learned in childhood how to judge yourself, you can also learn to cultivate self-acceptance and self-compassion in your recovery today. By observing yourself with curiosity, you can explore how your inner saboteur might have served a purpose but has outlasted its welcome. Tune in to learn more about turning down the volume on the inner critic while practicing self-compassion. 

In this podcast, we welcome Dr. Joe Kort, licensed psychotherapist, author, and
a board-certified sexologist. He is the founder and director of the Center for
Relational and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. Dr. Kort discusses the often-
overlooked topic of Straight Men Who Have Sex with Men and explores sexual
fluidity, erotic vs. sexual orientation as well as the stigma associated with straight-
identified men who enjoy specific sexual acts with other men. Join us for this
informative and honest sexual health conversation.

In this podcast, we offer an alternative approach to processing hurt. Traditionally, therapists focus on healing the hurt by talking it out with the transgressor (e.g. parent, significant other, co-worker). Instead, today’s podcast encourages you to take full responsibility for all of your feelings and reactions without blaming or finger-pointing. Because cumulative hurt can create vulnerability to relapse, this method supports long-term recovery and takes you out of the quicksand of falling into victim mode.

Today we welcome Tom Pecca, MA, LMHC, CSAT, CTT who is a Senior Clinical Advisor for the Guest House-Ocala located in Central Florida. As a trauma and addictions specialist and educator, Tom discusses how both aspects of healing need to be fully addressed in order to promote long-term sustainable recovery. We also take a look at sexual recovery and attachment patterns as part of the deeper healing from compulsive sexual behaviors.

In this podcast we explore resilience which is sometimes defined as the capacity to recovery quickly from difficulties.  So how do you build resilience? Listen to our revealing conversation and begin to consider ways to fortify your nervous system, alleviate shame and sustain longer-term recovery.

Today we welcome international Brainspotting trainer and addiction specialist, Dr. Roby Abeles who practices in Sydney, Australia. Dr. Abeles gives us a brief overview of neuroscience, addiction, and Brainspotting and introduces us to her highly-effective version of Brainspotting called the Crocodile set-up. Learn more about this cutting-edge approach to healing addictive, compulsive behaviors from one of the leaders in the field of Brainspotting.

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Today Andrew leads you in a short, mindful breathing exercise. Many relaxation exercises require five minutes, ten minutes, or even more, but here he invites you to take just a few minutes to observe your breath with curiosity and non-judgment. Find a comfortable space and give yourself a chance to catch your breath.

In this podcast, we welcome psychotherapist and DBT specialist, Elle Michel, LMFT to discuss how Dialectical Behavior Therapy helps clients heal from trauma and addiction. She shares about the clinical applications of DBT and expands on specific skills such as emotional regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, and interpersonal effectiveness.

It’s that time of year again, and this is going to be a holiday season unlike any other. With a new wave of Covid crossing our country, travel is questionable, and being “home for the holidays” takes on a whole different meaning. In this podcast, we discuss ways to navigate the holiday season and strengthen recovery through mindfulness, creative connection, and healthier boundaries.

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