It’s Not About the Sex

It’s Not About The Sex is a podcast based on the book by the same name. Psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken heartedness. Each podcast he interviews other therapists who work with clients dealing with addictive behaviors around troubled relationships.

In this episode Andrew and friend, Sue Merlino discuss the interesting topic of The Rythmn Within. They highlight how to best get in touch with and best practices on how to create space for and around what is going on inside ourselves. Andrews offers great insights into meditation and not only crisis healing but day to day recovery practices.

Dr. Nancy Sobel joins Andrew for a discussion around Sexual Addiction and Group Therapy. Dr. Sobel talks about her support practices that the groups share and how she organizes her groups as a whole. It's a great look at how Sexual Addiction Group Therapy forms in her practice as a family of support.

Ep 10 Narcissism

Today Andrew and long-time friend Sue Merlino discuss narcissism - an often misunderstood topic that applies to all addicts and sex addicts in particular. Is narcissism an overused word? Is it a disease? Is there a way to change this disorder? Thanks for listening, be sure to rate and like us with 5 stars where ever you listen, and be sure to leave comments.

In this Episode Andrew and friend Sue Merlino discuss the many paths of recovery. Andrew shares a conversation that he had recently with someone who choose not to do the 12-Step program for Sex Addicts and instead took a more organic route.  Andrew and Sue discuss the aspects of 12-Step programs and why it is a good plan of recovery for some and how it may not be for everyone.  They also discuss the roles of responsibility, community and having the support system in place for success.

Today we have a conversation about shame, resiliency and sex addiction, and how shame ties in to sex addiction. Andrew shares tools that can help one overcome this.  Andrew discusses how it’s important to identify shame and guilt as emotions that are part of being a human. He discusses how self awareness and group therapy are important tools in coming over shame. You can check out the Brene Brown video at the link below, and can sign up for and read Andrew's information at the Westside Therapist link below. Also, be sure to following Andrew on IG, and Linkedin.

Brene Brown, The Power Of Vulnerability, Ted Talk

Westside Therapist 

Andrew is on Instagram and Linkedin.

In this episode, LFMT Claudia Lewis and Andrew discuss how EMDR Therapy helps people who are sex addicts. Claudia takes us through the EMDR process and discusses how the brain functions and deals with different types of traumas.

Ep. 6 The Gratitude of Loss is the title of the 2nd chapter in Andrews' book, "It's Not About the Sex". He discusses that grief and loss are things that nobody talks about and how grief is almost taboo in our society. Grief can be a more comprehensive way of moving towards healing. He explains that the process of breaking up with your addiction is really like saying goodbye to it. The gratitude of loss is another way to experience a more dimensional self.

Andrew interviews World-Renowned Sex Coach, Dr. Patti Britton. In this podcast, Andrew and Dr. Patti discuss what exactly is sex coaching and what are the differences between sex coaching and sex therapy.   They also discuss how important it is to help guide and facilitate clients to set goals and how to work with them in achieving their goals. Dr. Patti gives us some highlights of her Sex Coaching University online training and certification course.



Andrew Susskind explores how Emotional Sobriety takes shape once an individual achieves Sexual Sobriety.  He describes Emotional Sobriety as a regulated state when you feel most comfortable in your skin. When someone is emotionally sober, they won't need the compulsive, addictive behavior to feel better.  Therefore, emotional sobriety reduces the vulnerability to relapse.

Andrew Susskind discusses his latest book It’s Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy. As a psychotherapist and author who’s been in twelve-step recovery for more than twenty-five years, Andrew has witnessed hundreds of people struggle with out of control sexual behavior. And there’s one thing Andrew emphasizes: Sex addiction is not about the sex; it’s about deep-rooted challenges with intimacy.

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