It’s Not About the Sex

It’s Not About The Sex is a podcast based on the book by the same name. Psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken heartedness. Each podcast he interviews other therapists who work with clients dealing with addictive behaviors around troubled relationships.

Today we welcome international Brainspotting trainer and addiction specialist, Dr. Roby Abeles who practices in Sydney, Australia. Dr. Abeles gives us a brief overview of neuroscience, addiction, and Brainspotting and introduces us to her highly-effective version of Brainspotting called the Crocodile set-up. Learn more about this cutting-edge approach to healing addictive, compulsive behaviors from one of the leaders in the field of Brainspotting.

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Today Andrew leads you in a short, mindful breathing exercise. Many relaxation exercises require five minutes, ten minutes, or even more, but here he invites you to take just a few minutes to observe your breath with curiosity and non-judgment. Find a comfortable space and give yourself a chance to catch your breath.

In this podcast, we welcome psychotherapist and DBT specialist, Elle Michel, LMFT to discuss how Dialectical Behavior Therapy helps clients heal from trauma and addiction. She shares about the clinical applications of DBT and expands on specific skills such as emotional regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, and interpersonal effectiveness.

It’s that time of year again, and this is going to be a holiday season unlike any other. With a new wave of Covid crossing our country, travel is questionable, and being “home for the holidays” takes on a whole different meaning. In this podcast, we discuss ways to navigate the holiday season and strengthen recovery through mindfulness, creative connection, and healthier boundaries.

Andrew interviews psychologist and certified sex addiction therapist/supervisor, Dr. Tracy Zemansky who specializes in treating professionals struggling with boundary crossings, boundary violations, and sexual misconduct. Through customized group therapy, she provides support to doctors, lawyers, pilots as well as other professionals toward healing problematic sexual behaviors and preventing further difficulties. Dr. Zemansky is one of the few therapists in California offering this essential form of treatment.

For more information, visit Dr. Zemansky’s website:  

Susskind and Merlino take on the often-misunderstood topic of obsession in today’s podcast.  In this episode we look at obsession as a universal part of being human and a chance to learn about oneself and one’s mind. Because love addiction and fantasy often result in obsession, this podcast offers a larger perspective on the road to healing. Susskind presents specific strategies to move beyond obsession and healing from your original longings. 

In this podcast, we welcome Eddie Capparucci, LPC, C-CSAS, CPCS, creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process for the treatment of sex and porn addiction. This method uncovers the root issues of sex addiction and provides clients with tools and insight to manage their behaviors. He is the author of Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction.

Contact Eddie Capparucci at or

Susskind and Merlino take on the often-misunderstood subject of anger and how
it influences long-term recovery. Andrew believes that unexpressed anger can
create vulnerability to relapse and expressing anger safely and productively can
create more authentic intimacy and connection in your relationships. Can anger
truly be an ally? Tune in and find out.

Today we welcome addiction and codependency specialists, Grace Riddell and Barry McNinch who practice in the Washington, DC metropolitan area. As queer-identified clinicians, they delve into an intergenerational discussion about Queer Codependency and the challenges and opportunities faced within the LGBTQI community. 

Grace Riddell can be reached at or

Andrew Susskind and Sue Merlino explore the ongoing effects of the pandemic with a special focus on connection -- one of the ingredients of sustainable addiction recovery. As Covid-19 continues to expand, this ongoing dialogue is intended to offer connection and community. More than ever, it takes extra stamina to build capacity for connection to self and others, and here we brainstorm ways to weather this “Corona Coaster” and stay resilient.

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